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       Wednesday, December 20, 2000

Why Can We Not Simply Change Our Personalities?

It is a lamentation that has gone through the mind of every socially inept male on the planet at one time or another: Why can I not simply change my personality into one that is more appealing to women?  After all, we see men every day who don't seem that different than us, except for the attractive female attached to their arm and the shit-eating grin they wear as we walk past dejectedly.  So why is it so difficult to learn the shit-eating grin?  Why do we have such difficulty speaking to women with confidence?  Why can we not simply pretend to be someone far more secure in themselves than we actually are?  
The answers are not simple, nor are they pleasant.

"The Inner Asshead"

The analogy that best explains why we are unable to change our character in any meaningful way is that of the Elephant Thought.
Take this moment now to stop reading and start thinking about elephants.  The goal of this exercise is to think about elephants for as long as possible.  Are you thinking of elephants?  Obviously not, as you are still reading this paragraph.  I will give you another chance: Think about elephants!!!  And don't stop.

Ok.  You failed.  You have decided to continue reading the article rather than continue with this ridiculous exercise; and thus is made my point:  we ultimately fail in any endeavor which is opposed to our nature.  It is not in our nature to constantly think of elephants without pause (except in certain African cultures, but I am assured that they don't frequent this website).  Nor is it in our nature to adopt any personality other than the insecure, incompetent, and woefully unsexy personality that we've been cursed with.  
This is what we mean when we refer to the Inner Asshead.  It is the flawed, core personality that the socially inept can never change.  This is why true happiness can only be found when the quest for woman is completely, gloriously abandoned.

Don't Blame Your Parents

SociallyInept.com recently received a letter from Crunt Cummins, which read as follows:
I fucking hate my dad.  My whole life he tells me, "Always treat women with respect...Respect your woman...Treat her like a lady" and yadda-fuckin-ya.  So what do I get for treating women with respect?  I earn a place as "trusted friend" so they can talk to me about all the guys that are fucking them!  What the fuckin fuck is that???  

Crunt, that is your destiny, nothing less.  It is not your father's fault that women collectively think you suck.  It is your Inner Asshead; and nothing will ever change that.  Be at peace with your place in life; and for God's sake...GIVE UP.